February, 2, 2014
A couple is fighting about perceived slights from one another, none of what they are saying to each other is landed with the other partner. They wish to be real, authentic, deep and introspective in a relationship with one another, but this only works when each parter can speak only for their emotions, thoughts and feelings.
Making comments or decisions about the feelings, intentions and desires of your partner is simply assumptive thinking. Assumptive thinking allows the person making the assumptions to continue to live out the deep insecurities within themselves without ever facing the reality of their partner in the present moment and the party operating in assumptions doesn’t give themselves the chance to grow by examining the fear that is running them.